Listen Objectively; Value Everyone In Sight/InSights...
Love is respectful... Love is considering and honoring others... their whole being - identity, knowledge, ideas, beliefs, expertise, experience, feelings, space, property... with the same respect you show yourself and/or your loved ones.
So what is respect? Typically, having respect for someone or something means that we value or admire certain qualities, position, or ability. Respect may be a high opinion of the other person's judgment or expertise. Or it may be appreciation simply for who they are. It is demonstrated by showing favor or consideration or deference or reverence. Respect is automatic when we recognize and truly understand the value of each person being regarded.
"And God created man in His own image, in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them."1 Do we value, respect all that God has created?
God Blessed the World... (Blessed, Bless, Blesses, Is continuously Blessing...)
"For God SO BLESSED the World that He gave His only begotten Son..."
How do we show respect? By recognizing the value of each person? By honoring their wishes? Perhaps by listening and understanding?
The popular phrase "WWJD? - What Would Jesus Do?" begs us to look at His heart, to listen to Him. In Romans 5:18, Paul says "...even so through one act of righteousness there resulted justification of life to all men." Throughout the gospels of Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John, "Jesus went about doing good and healing all who came to Him."2 And as He was dying on the cross, He said "Father, forgive them, they know not what they do."3 Now that's respect!
Do we REALLY Listen? Do we REALLY HEAR what is being said, and more importantly, MEANT? Listening involves focusing on the speaker and his/her words. Then, trying to understand the speaker's perspective. Be objective and open.
Eye contact is imperative for effective one-on-one communication... A nod or a smile is a quiet gesture that conveys your interest, without interrupting. Listening to someone, and understanding, is one of the greatest gifts you can give today... Go ahead! Try It! You'll probably notice a smile of appreciation or an added sparkle in the speaker's eye... Listening is superb for building self-esteem in children, (teens, and adults) too!
Love is what we demonstrate when we truly listen.
Inspire is what we do when we encourage another's ideas.
Strengthen the bond in ANY relationship, simply by LISTENING...
Teach by listening... No Kidding! Ask questions... Listen CAREFULLY... Direct/Share accordingly!
Encourage truthfully and with sincerity.
Need... Show other's their importance to you by just listening...
--Kammy McElwain, Managing Editor
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Excellent article at Aish.com on love and respect, with a gem about laughter too, by Rabbi Kalman Packouz. If you truly want to understand respect, please read, consider, dwell, meditate on, and learn the prayer quoting Rabbi Zelig Pliskin excerpted from his book, My Father, My King.
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